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Daughter and Father Complex Issues

Posted on August 19, 2019 in Uncategorized

Daughter and father complex issues can stem from an overbearing father, an absentee father or even from the mother. Yes, even from the mom.

Daddy issues

Daddy issues or what is called the Electra syndrome, is a complex issue of a daughter competing with her mother for the attention of the father. As the child grows up, she eventually tends to look for male attention outside of the home front. When a girl is ultra flirtatious, sexually aggressive, wanting to catch men’s attention, then there is a very high chance that the girl has issues called the Electra complex.

Unrealized expectation or dream

Some issues result from the dad being very strict, constricting the freedom of the daughter, and imposing perfectionism. The daughter would either respond by living up to the father’s expectation and even actually living her father’s unfinished dreams; or rebel. There are fathers who wanted a son but ended up getting a daughter. This unrealized expectation or dream, when not properly managed, will cause the daughter to feel inferior and will try to compensate by living up to the role of a son. She will live the life of her father’s “son” and will soon find herself with no identity. This can cause the daughter to excel in school, appear very successful in her career, but unbeknownst to the outside world, she has poor self-image and is overstressed trying to live up to her father’s expectations.

Daughter’s self-identity

The problem in this type of daughter and father complex issue can cause confusion and dilemma in establishing the daughter’s self-identity. At a certain point in her life, she will start to wonder why she is feeling “not herself” or “unsuccessful” in spite of excelling in everything that she does. Living up to other people’s expectations can be very straining on anybody and this is what happens to the daughter. Another offshoot to this is at a point when the daughter snaps and suddenly drops the ball. She might feel the weight too heavy to carry that she may opt to go against the will of the father and become self-destructive.

Overpowering dads

Some daughters with overpowering dads can choose to react aggressively even as a young girl and will never try to please her dad at all. In fact, she will go out of her way to show her displeasure for her dad’s micro-management. She will smoke, have low grades, and might resort to drugs and alcohol just to rebel and make her point. This produces the complete opposite of the perfectionist daughter.

Not worthy of a father’s love

Another daughter and father complex issue is derived from the lack of a father figure. It may be that the father is usually traveling, or worse, the father left them without a word. The latter condition leaves a very strong dent on the self-esteem of the daughter. The daughter can grow up with the thought that she is not worthy of a father’s love. Some may even think that they caused the parents’ break up and the father leaving them.

Low self-confidence and feeling of guilt

With low self-confidence and feeling of guilt, a daughter can grow up to be withdrawn and mediocre. The daughter’s yearning for a father’s affection, protection and guidance can cause deep melancholy and pain as the girl grows up. And some pent-up anger can be directed inwardly that affects the mental health of the daughter.

Absentee fathers to get into drugs

It is not uncommon for daughters with absentee fathers to get into drugs, go into depression and have multiple partners. Sadly, these problems are not very easy to show as the cause for the problematic life of the adult daughter. When a grown up daughter spirals downward with some drug or alcohol issues or multiple divorces, the root cause which goes all the way to her childhood may not be apparent even to the closest people to her. Many daughters suffering from this daughter and father complex issue may not even recognize the root cause of her failing life.

Touching her inappropriately

The worst daughter and father complex issue is if the daughter feels that the father is touching her inappropriately or lusts for her. These complex issues can cause not only stress, depression or anxiety but even neurosis. The girl can hate the father and hate herself for allowing such things to happen.

Father figure is very important

A father figure is very important to the health of a daughter’s emotional and psychological growth. The father’s presence can fill up a daughter’s most memorable moments. The father, being the first adult male encounter of any daughter, can spell the success or failure of the daughter’s future relationships with men.

Can devastate the future

Parents should recognize that daughter and father complex issues are real and can devastate the future of their daughter. They should work out a plan on raising their daughter properly.

Conclusion: A genuinely caring father who gives time and shows affection to his young daughter can provide an anchor so that her girl will not go astray; and keep on the right path towards success in different fronts of life, especially in marriage.

Your Skin Does Not Have to Age

Posted on August 14, 2019 in Uncategorized

In today’s modern world, skin experts and scientists have joined forces in creating fabulous new products that can slow down the aging of our skin. Youth has been an obsession since the beginning of history. From Cleopatra’s milk bath to Elizabeth Taylor’s orange peel mask, women have tried and tested a lot of age-reversing techniques to delay the effects of time. Most people think to grow old is natural and we have to accept that we get older everyday, but like what the famous Carmen Electra said “I don’t mind getting old, I just don’t want to look it” – and that is exactly what this article is all about: Growing with age and wisdom, but not showing it on our skin.

Moisturize Regularly

Anti-aging creams comprises a multi-billion dollar industry that caters to a wide range of consumers all wanting to lessen the effects of time. Everybody wants to always look young and beautiful, and most of then don’t care about the cost. Though priced different, one always needs to understand that the best way to prevent those unsightly wrinkles is to moisturize – and brand names are usually what consumers are paying for.

Always hydrate your skin with an oil-free moisturizer to help it repair itself and recover from the harmful effects of pollution and sunlight. Starting early can help a lot because young skin can absorb the effects of moisturizers more effectively than aged skin. So never say it’s too young to start moisturizing, using a regular moisturizer now is better that using expensive anti-aging creams later on.

Drink Plenty of Water

Body dehydration can really show on the skin, in fact one of the symptoms of dehydration is dry, saggy, cold skin. Keeping your body hydrated can help your skin age slower because it prevents the need to suck moisture from our skin to deliver to more important organs needing hydration.

Remember our skin is also an organ and it requires water to function properly. Drinking eight (8) glasses or more of water a day can help our body in so many ways and naturally prevents that aging and damaging effects of dehydration. Always carry with you water containers you can drink as often as needed. And whenever you feel even the tiniest need to sip on something, chances are it’s your body telling you it needs some.

Know the Science of Aging

Advances in cosmetics and skincare have been greatly changing the way we live. In food production, eating organic foods have been proven to slow down aging, both inside and on the surface of the body. People who consume more meat (which if you live in western countries, widely contain growth hormones commonly used in cattle and swine farming) actually help in speeding up the aging process.

In America, girls belonging to the fast food generation have started menstruating earlier compared to previous generations, and boys have been showing earlier muscle development which is suppose to arrive later. Science has affected our lifestyle and diet that we have to make an active choice to find organics products and cosmetics that can help us age slower.

Aging can also be delayed, thanks mainly to science, by the discovery of substances that naturally help in reversing the negative effects of aging in our skin. Alpha Hydroxy Acid, Vitamin C, and Retinol have been tested and proven to help delay the appearance of wrinkles. If you already have wrinkles, fear not because creams infused with these substances have been proven to reverse the signs of aging resulting into a younger, more radiant skin.

Stop Smoking

Smoking cigarettes can have negative effects on the skin that could be permanent. Smoking dehydrates the skin and causes premature aging of our dermis. If you want to lessen the effects of aging, quitting now can help you save a lot of money in anti-aging creams in the future. Not only does it cause bad breath, the smoke also pollutes the skin and ash particles can clog our pores causing pimples. Experts agree that smoking is one of the top things that could cause you to age faster. So be sure to start making the healthy choice immediately to avoid wrinkles – and remember that our skins are aging constantly, even while you’re just sitting there are reading this.

Avoid the Sun

Sunlight may be great if you’re a plant, but as people, it is one of our worst enemies in the fight against aging. Avoiding the sun can profoundly help our skin age slower.

Scientists have proven that people who do not use sunblock are 10 times more likely to show earlier signs of aging before they reach their 30’s. Skin quality can start to deteriorate in our late twenties, but moisturizing regularly and avoiding the sun can make delay the effects of aging for at least 10 years. Not only will your protect yourself from wrinkles when you avoid the sun, but you can also protect yourself from skin-cancer.

Our skin needs all the care we can give if we want it to remain youthful and radiant for a long time. Every decision we make, from the food we eat to the products we use on our face, all contribute to the general health of our skin. Following these steps may not ensure a longer life, but it can definitely ensure a younger, fresher skin – and we really don’t have to look a year older than we actually are.

Getting Your Apartment Ready For Love

Posted on August 11, 2019 in Uncategorized

Looking for love? Or worse…looking for love in all the wrong places? I think we all know by now that it’s all about living for fun, and just about everyone agrees that much of the fun in life comes from finding the right person to share it with.

From regular, day-to-day pursuits like grocery shopping, working out, or preparing a meal, to life’s more exciting adventures like traveling, going out, or getting close (and maybe a little adventurous), setting the right mood is imperative to finding love. Then when the time is right, the right ambiance in your apartment can make all the difference.

Let’s say you’ve gone out on a great date, the conversation’s fantastic, and it’s time to make a move. You’re looking to make the action in your apartment a little Carmen Electra and a lot less Electric Company. So what can you do to get that Electra? I’d like to call myself a bit of an expert on the subject. Some may even go so far as to call me a professional. Okay, I think pretty much everyone might say that it’s a self-proclaimed title, but let’s let bygones be bygones and get down to the nitty gritty.

Since I’m such a sharing guy and want my vast knowledge to help every apartment-ite it can, I’m going let you in on some great steps that’ll help you get your place ship-shape for love. Some of you out there need a lot of help (you know who you are) so make sure to pay attention. Take notes if you want to, but let’s get your apartment ready for love!

Step # 1 For the Love of cheese, Clean Up

No one, and I mean NO ONE other than Grover gets hot and bothered amid a mess. Pick up around the place, clean up the dirty dishes, get that vacuum in gear, and don’t be afraid to actually clean your own toilet for once. Trust me, fellas, ladies don’t want to see [BREAK] the mold around your sink and the ring around the tub either. Soap scum will make you look like a lazy bum. Hire a maid if you have to. Just make sure your place is as dust, dirt, and clutter free as Mama would’ve wanted.

Step # 2 A little night music

When you head for the iPod, think soothing and sexy, not getting’ down and dirty. This one might depend on your personal definition of “soothing,” but Marvin Gaye is always a great choice. A nice acoustic sound like John Mayer or Jack Johnson will always set a great mood too. Plus, other than only turning up the heat, music therapy has proven to provide real health benefits as well as reduce stress. You’ll want to stay away from anything that could potentially bust an ear drum or makes you want to drive fast in the car. Anything you have to scream over to have a conversation won’t get anywhere. And no, the new Snoop album won’t work either. Offensive lyrics do nothing, but kill the mood.

Step # 3 Aromatherapy

There’s a reason the perfume and cologne industries rake in billions. Pleasing scents have been proven to soothe stress and can also foster romance. You can use candles, sprays, or even burn a little incense. But don’t overdo it. You can go from suave to cheesy pretty fast with too much smell good. Keep it subtle. Remember: scent is the number one sense associated with memory. Smell great and you’re bound to leave a lasting impression. Smell bad and you’re bound to leave their nostrils flaring and send them running.

Step # 4 Comfort is the key

If you’re going to spoil yourself with one expensive piece of furniture, make it a couch with plenty of room for getting to know one another. A couple of smooth recliners may look great and be heaven watching games or movies, but won’t help at all in putting a move on your date. In absolutely no situation should you ever find patio furniture or fold-up chairs anywhere else, but on the patio. Moral of this story: Go with that nice comfy couch. That after-dinner drink can turn into much more with the help of a comfy couch that just invites adventure.

The final step…Make it Your Own

Your apartment is your home and it speaks for you before you ever say a word. Remember that when someone walks in, they’ll make judgments about your style, your tastes, and, yes, your sex appeal based on how it looks. Pay attention to the details and you’re on your way to getting more than just a good night’s sleep.


Two Main Trends for Women in 2006 Hairstyles

Posted on August 9, 2019 in Uncategorized

Now that we are half way into 2006 let’s review the two main hairstyle trends of this year.

The first obvious trend is that we are seeing a lot more short and curly hair with bobs and curls custom designed for different individuals. Berets and hair bands and pins to rein longer hairs in are also in fashion.

Gone are the long straight hair styles that dominated the last few years. At a maximum, shoulder-length hair is what we see in a lot of award ceremonies where celebrities and stars model the new trends.

Another anti-long-hair style for 2006 is the ponytail, in all its variants.

Beyonce led the way in this new style when she showed up with a lush pony tail to receive her Walk of Fame Star on March 28, 2006 in Hollywood, LA. Other stars preferring ponytails include Carmen Electra, Gwen Stefani, Pauley Perrete, Alexis Bledel, and Katie Lohmann.

The pony tails can be braided, let loose, or brushed up towards the crown of the head in the most popular style of them all, also known as the “High Ponytail.”

Even Jennifer Aniston, after years of straight hair in the successful FRIENDS series, is seen lately wearing a “Stacked” ponytail which has a fluffy rich look to it.

And when you see Paris Hilton and Nicole Ritchie posing for the cameras with long hair it does not mean that they are not following the current trend for shorter hair. Their secret is hidden in a single word: “extension.” Hair extensions allow a lot of celebrities these days to enjoy the best of both the old and the new hairstyle trends with ease.